This is what I think: the perfect relationship does exist, but only in your eyes.
We grew up watching fairy tales; the beautiful princess being rescued by prince charming. We believed that such a thing existed, we dreamed of being saved by a handsome stranger who we married and lived happily ever after with. We dreamed a lot, but reality always pulled us back to the present and how such things were only fabricated stories.
There was no prince charming to save us from a bad hangover day, there was no true love’s kiss to wake us up from a deep slumber and there was no magic fairy godmother to bippity- boppity-boop our problems away. Snow White, Sleeping Beauty and Cinderella portrayed a picture-perfect man with a picture-perfect ending, but such relationships in real life are not picture perfect.
What about you? Do you believe such a thing, a perfect relationship? I’ll admit, I was skeptical about them, but I like to read between the lines, to take a step back and look at the bigger picture. There are many different couples and relationships in the present day; open relationships, romantic relationships, non-romantic relationships and so on.
Each one unique and holding their own rituals and routines and rules. I am not a relationship professional nor do I ever intend to be, but I must have given good advice to my friends in secondary school while they were all in relationships, while I (the biggest nerd) was single. Always single.
Either way, taking on this article wasn’t daunting because I do believe that when it comes to talking about relationships, I do know a thing or two that puts people at ease.
This is what I think; the perfect relationship does exist, but only in your eyes. It’s easy for people to look at a couple, in person or online, and think “wow, they look so good together, they are simply perfect!” when in reality, the relationship might be crumbling for all we know.
It’s easy for people to see a couple out walking and observe how they aren’t holding hands or conversing with one another and think “maybe a break-up is on the cards” when in reality they’re quite happy with one another and prefer not to partake in PDA.
A perfect relationship isn’t determined by what outsiders see; it’s determined how the partners see it. Perhaps the perfect relationship doesn’t exist, but maybe it exists in you and your partner’s little private bubble.
Every couple fights, every couple has doubts, every couple has their own way of showing their relationship to the world and it’s not the same as everyone else’s presentation. You don’t need to copy another couple just because it looks appealing to the public eye, what truly matters is how the two of you feel in your happy little bubble together.
Personally, I walk hand-in-hand with my partner everywhere and we smile at each other every so often and I think to myself, this is perfect to me. Everyone else is just background noise. This is my version of a perfect relationship.